I am
not a certified sex therapist, but I did a fair amount of sex counseling as a
part of my private practice and I have a thick file of questions from my Human
Sexuality students indicative of the problems that the average couple has
experiencing sexual pleasure. At the root of these problems is the lack of
pillow talk.
Our citizenry
is bombarded by sexual imagery, all of which portrays the ideal—the ideal body,
the ideal in attractive (provocative) clothing, scents to arouse, sexy
accommodations and vehicles. There are countless nostrums and 'toys' readily
available OTC that purport to enhance sexual pleasure when all that is really
necessary comes built in to the male and female body.
The
brain is the primary sex organ. Ideas
and imagery originate there, as do the necessary sexual reflexes; sexual behaviors
are designed and perfected there, and sexual pleasure and orgasm are
experienced therein. Unfortunately expectations, misconceptions,
misunderstandings, anxiety, and frustration are equally in lodging and act as
barriers to sexual pleasure.
Although
many parents are more open to questions about sex from their children, and
answer them with a modicum of comfort, they stress that sex is an adult thing,
preferable only within marriage. Few openly address sexual pleasuring and
sexual response; these are blanks they believe their children will fill in by
themselves. Totally left out of these discussions is how to talk to your
partner about what you like and don't like, what feels good and what doesn't,
and what you need at a given moment. I have learned that these very important
considerations are not often discussed between themselves by their parents.
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